Romantic breakups are an inevitable part of life, love and living. If you’re going to live life to the full, you’re going to risk some sort of heartache along the way. Here are some tips from the Crowned Jewels team to ease the pain, get you back on your feet and put yourself out there again, ready for your next passionate adventure.
Get yourself clean and by that, I don’t mean just have a bath! Go through your living space and remove anything that reminds you of your recently ended love. Put clean, fresh sheets on your bed and rearrange your bedroom – even if it’s just moving pictures, mirrors or cushions. A new perspective helps get you off to a fresh start.
Now is the time to indulge yourself in some healthy ‘me’ time. Start reading that new book you been meaning to get around to and binge watch a new tv series when you feel sad thoughts creeping in. Do an activity that you’ve thinking about or join a new club. You’re free and single now so it’s time to make the most of it in the most positive way. It’s time to take care of you and not dwell on the past.
Embrace your feelings
Let your feelings flow naturally. This won’t be easy and will be quite painful at times, but take note of how you feel. Trying to lock them away, means that you haven’t dealt with them and they will only resurface later – probably when you really could do without them! Cry, shout and swear, but most important of all, get it all out of your system and deal with them as they come. It’s painful in the short term but you will feel better for it later.
Change your look
Whether it’s treating yourself to a fabulous new bag, awesome pair of shoes or hot new jeans, make sure it’s something that makes you feel sexy and special. If you’re feeling really bold, change your hair or try a new style and look – whatever it takes to give you that ‘wow factor’ and get heads really turning. You might not be ready to get back in the saddle, but that doesn’t mean you should go unnoticed!
Make a song and dance of it
Sing like no one’s listening and dance like no one’s watching! It’s an old saying but it really works. It’s okay to indulge in some sad songs, at least for a little while but then switch it up for some tunes that you love with a thumping beat and a sing-along chorus. Blast it out at home or in the car to clear your head and lift your spirits.
Buy a new best friend
Of course, now is the best time to treat yourself to a new sex toy. Be it a vibrator, to get you to orgasm in short order, a dildo, (particularly a metal one!) to learn your body properly and find all your sweet spots or try something undiscovered, like a butt plug. You can please yourself without question or judgement from anyone else and you really deserve to spend some quality on you and your personal pleasure.
You may feel like your world has just ended, but everything, the feelings and pain is only temporary. It will all ease with time, life will march on and you might start to wonder what you saw in them in the first place. Learn from your experience, however good or bad, embrace your strengths and continue to grow as a person